Sarah* was a “smug married” woman with a “middle-class, middle-everything life”, before a knock on the door brought her world crashing down.
Early one morning, the day before her son’s birthday, she awoke to find police officers in her bedroom. Her husband was standing there with the police – their “really average” life would never be the same again.
“The first thing I knew, the doorbell was ringing,” she says. Shame-faced, her husband – who was always a stickler for following rules – said he had been arrested.
When she asked him why, he just replied: “Images.”
He was quickly escorted out by officers and taken away for questioning. Hundreds of indecent images of children had been found on his computer, including three Category A – the most serious.
As every corner of their home – cupboards, drawers, the attic and garage – was searched, a panicked Sarah asked the forensic officers if they wanted a cup of tea. Then a detective sat her down in their usually neat living room, and described the illegal images her husband had viewed in such detail it left her wondering if “they wanted to add to the shock value”.
She is still haunted by the memory of her two children crying, while police ransacked their house. “I didn’t really focus on them,” she says, her voice cracking. “In hindsight, I should have been with the children and ignored everything else.”
A working mother in her late-40s, Sarah is neatly dressed and well-spoken. The horror of that moment will never leave her, but she hopes that telling her story might help anyone going through something similar.
She sips a cup of tea, while reflecting on the nightmare that rocked her family’s life several years ago. Police, informally, call this type of arrest “The Knock”.
It is a raid on the home where every electronic and telecommunications device in the property is searched for, scanned on-site or confiscated.
All her photographs of her children from the day they were born to the day of the arrest were lost, Sarah says, because they were stored on the main computer, alongside the child abuse images.
After he was convicted, the judge ordered the computer to be destroyed.
Typically, warrants are executed early in the morning to reduce the chance of an offender destroying possible evidence. But that can make it more likely that children will be home at the time of arrest.
For Sarah, the feeling of being judged was overwhelming. Their house was in a small cul-de-sac and she was certain her neighbours would call and ask what was going on: “It was obvious something big was happening in our house.”
But the phone never rang.
After his initial arrest that day, Sarah’s husband was bailed and returned to the family home. The pair sat down on the sofa and had a long conversation about the future. But a few hours later, social services arrived and told him to pack a bag and go.
Image: Sarah* asked not to be identified out of fear for repercussions against her family
“I was in a state of shock, the children were beside themselves. My husband was confused, and quite rightly, in a state of utter shame.”
Months of agonising followed but in the end Sarah decided to support her husband and keep the family together. While she would “never defend” what he did, she says, her children were a “huge factor” in her decision.
Her husband was eventually found guilty of viewing and copying more than 500 indecent images of children, aged 11 to 18. A year after their home was raided, he received a community sentence.
To help her cope, Sarah tried to understand what was going through his mind and what motivated him to look at those images. She also spoke to experts to find out how likely it was he would move from looking at images to offending against children.
She was psychologically tested and questioned by social services and other agencies, as they asked her to justify her choice. Her children also underwent questioning.
At the same time, Sarah says she and the children received no support for the trauma that had been caused to them by her husband’s crime, which new research shows can induce the same level of post-traumatic stress as war-zone combat.
Image: Sarah says she will ‘never escape’ the choice she has made
“I felt so isolated,” she says. “They made it clear to me that I was unique in my decision.”
But anecdotally, police say around 50% of people choose to stay with their sex offender partners. “There must be more than me in the UK, that choose to stay as well? But how do you come across those people? Because nobody would ever, ever, talk about it openly,” she says.
In England and Wales, police forces make more than 850 arrests a month for online child sex offences. The majority of suspects are men who can have families living with them at the time of the offence.
Thousands of children every year now have to deal with the vicarious shame and stigma that’s associated with such a crime.
Dr Theresa Redmond, a professor for the eastern region policing institute at Anglia Ruskin University, describes the situation for those affected as a “high risk in terms of self-harm, suicide ideation”, especially once all the other emotional, financial and physical impacts are taken into account.
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Many families, like Sarah’s, move home and put their children in different schools to avoid being targeted once the crime becomes known. But – whether or not partners choose to stay with the offender – there is no mandatory support for families.
“The police left some leaflets with my husband,” Sarah tells me, “for support for him.” For her and the children, she says, “There was nothing.”
Now, her family are trying to make a new start.
But the reality is wherever they go the shadow of her husband’s crime will always follow them: “If we go to a doctor’s appointment, it is on the file. If we go to the paediatrician, it’s on the file. The school, it’s on the file.”
Every time the doorbell rings, she feels a sense of dread. “I don’t answer the door anymore.”
She also harbours fears for the future implications of her choice to stay. Her children say they love their father and have forgiven him but she is worried about what happens when they grow up.
“If they have children and tell their partners what happened, will they then decide that my husband and I aren’t appropriate to get involved with their children?” she says, sounding fearful.
“I’ll never escape the choice I made.”
*Names have been changed
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“I don’t remember feeling this unsafe ever before,” says 76-year-old devout Sikh Resham Kaur who moved to the UK from India when she was 18.
She’s waiting for two men to walk her home from the gurdwara – a Sikh place of worship – at a time of rising fears over physical and verbal racial abuse.
Resham reaches for her walking stick and puts on her shoes.
Image: Sarbjit Singh and Mangat Singh walking Resham Kaur home from the gurdwara
Image: Monty Singh says they are ‘not vigilantes’
“When I came to this country, I didn’t fear for my safety. But now I do – every day. It’s a lot worse now,” she says.
It’s a disturbing admission at a time when some fear Britain’s communities are more fragmented than ever.
Two volunteers arrive, opening the exit door for Resham at the gurdwara in Smethwick in the West Midlands.
Sarbjit Singh – who works in a bakery – and Mangat Singh – who works at a salad farm – are part of the congregation and walk people to and from the gurdwara on their days off to keep them safe.
With attendance numbers at the gurdwara falling because of safety fears, Sarbjit says it’s something they need to do “until we get a bit of peace and tranquillity back in society and the community”.
“We have to do something. We can’t just sit in silence. And we can’t let the congregation just stay at home,” Sarbjit says.
Image: The Oldbury patrol
Other groups of Sikh men are also taking action – joining patrols along a road in nearby Oldbury where a young Sikh woman was allegedly raped a few weeks ago.
That alleged attack – and an assault on two taxi drivers in Wolverhampton in August – have horrified the Sikh community. Police are treating both incidents as racially aggravated.
Image: Two Sikh taxi drivers were allegedly assaulted in Wolverhampton in August
Monty Singh, who is taking part in the patrols, says they are “not vigilantes”.
“We need to make it crystal clear that we’re good people, we’re just trying to do the right thing and support our community,” Monty adds.
Pervinder Kaur is the vice president of the gurdwara.
Image: Pervinder Kaur said before the summer people felt safe, but racial abuse is being emboldened
She believes racial abuse is being emboldened after a summer of demonstrations outside hotels housing asylum seekers and renewed debate about immigration.
“People are more verbal about it now. They are not scared of the consequences,” she said.
A sense of vulnerability is common among minority communities and security measures have also been stepped up at mosques around the country.
Image: Iman Adam Kantar said ‘the Union Jack is our flag’
Image: Friday prayers at the Rumi Mosque in Edmonton, north London
Imam Adam Kantar from the Rumi Mosque in Edmonton, north London, said: “Many people are now telling their children not to be outside after certain hours.
“Their [husbands], they prefer to go shopping instead of their hijab [wearing] wives and spouses.
“We have to engage with the wider community and prove that we love this country and its people. The Union Jack is our flag.”
What Britain’s fragmented society has in common is fear among minority communities – even if the causes are different.
Rabbi Josh Levy, the co-lead of Progressive Judaism, has spent years trying to advance interfaith dialogue.
He said: “Single individual(s) or small groups can cause a huge amount of pain and distress.
“There are lots of really great examples of community cohesion around the country. But generally, there is definitely a sense of fragmentation. And whether it’s driven by political concerns or what’s happening internationally.
“We’ve got huge work to do in taking the work that happens on a national level and bringing it into local communities.”
Rachel Reeves has been warned that firms face a “make-or-break moment” at next month’s budget.
The British Chamber of Commerce (BCC) urged the chancellor, who is widely expected to announce tax hikes in November’s budget to fill a gap in the public finances, to steer clear of increasing levies on businesses.
Ms Reeves raised taxes by £40bn last year and the BCC said business confidence had not recovered since.
“Last year’s budget took the wind from their sails, and they have been struggling to find momentum ever since,” BCC director-general Shevaun Haviland said.
She said firms felt “drained” and could not plan ahead as they expected “further tax demands to be laid at their feet” when the budget is delivered on 26 November.
“The chancellor must seize this moment and use her budget to deliver a pro-growth agenda that can restore optimism and belief amongst business leaders,” Ms Haviland added.
“This year’s budget will be a make-or-break moment for many firms.”
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The BCC also called for a reform of business rates and the removal of the windfall tax on gas and oil introduced by the last government.
In its submission, the industry body outlined more than 60 recommendations, including the proposal of further infrastructure investment, cuts to customs barriers and action on skill shortages.
Earlier this year, Prime Minister Sir Keir Starmer announced Labour would aim to approve 150 major infrastructure projects by the next election, with Labour already pledging to support expansions of both Heathrow and Gatwick airports – another of the BCC’s requests.
While the Treasury would not comment on budget speculation, a spokesperson insisted Ms Reeves would “strike the right balance” between ensuring funding for public services and securing economic growth.
She has vowed to stick to Labour’s manifesto pledges not to raise taxes on “working people”.
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Household spending on the wane
The BCC’s plea to halt further tax rises on businesses comes as retail sales growth slowed in September.
“With the budget looming large, and households facing higher bills, retail spending rose more slowly than in recent months,” Helen Dickinson, chief executive of the British Retail Consortium (BRC), said.
“Rising inflation and a potentially taxing budget is weighing on the minds of many households planning their Christmas spending.”
Total retail sales in the UK increased by 2.3% year-on-year in September, against growth of 2% in September 2024 and above the 12-month average growth of 2.1%, according to BRC and KPMG data.
While food sales were up by 4.3% year-on-year, this was largely driven by inflation rather than volume growth.
Non-food sales growth slowed to 0.7% against the growth of 1.7% last September, making it below the 12-month average growth of 0.9%.
Image: Total retail sales in the UK increased in September compared to the year before. File pic: PA
Online non-food sales only increased by 1% against last September’s growth of 3.4%, which was below the 12-month average growth of 1.8%.
“The future of many large anchor stores and thousands of jobs remains in jeopardy while the Treasury keeps the risk of a new business rates surtax on the table,” Ms Dickinson said.
“By exempting these shops when the budget announcements are made, the chancellor can reduce the inflationary pressures hammering businesses and households alike.”
Thousands of homes fitted with insulation under a flagship government scheme now need major remedial work, or risk damp and mould, the public spending watchdog has warned.
A damning report by the National Audit Office (NAO) said “clear failures” in the Energy Company Obligation (ECO) scheme to tackle fuel poverty and pollution had led to low quality installations and even potential fraud.
It blamed incompetent subcontractors and weak monitoring and government oversight for the issues, which in extreme cases could cause fires.
Fuel poverty campaigners warned the system had “let cowboys through the front door”, saying it must be fixed to bring down energy bills and keep people warm.
Almost all homes – some 98%, affecting 22,000 to 23,000 properties – fitted with external wall insulation under the ECO are affected, the NAO said.
A further 29% of homes with internal wall insulation – around 9,000 to 13,000 dwellings – also face major issues that need fixing.
A small percentage of homes – 6% with external insulation and 2% with internal – put people in immediate danger, such as poor ventilation that could cause carbon monoxide poisoning, and electrical safety issues that could start fires.
ECO is a scheme that obliges energy companies to pay for energy efficiency measures in vulnerable households out of consumer bills.
Gareth Davies, head of the NAO, said ECO is “important to help reduce fuel poverty and meet the government’s ambitions for energy efficiency”.
But “clear failures in the design and set-up” had led to “poor-quality installations, as well as suspected fraud”, he added.
‘Gaming the system’
The report says the reason things had gone so badly wrong could be down to work being subcontracted to individuals and firms who are not competent or certified, uncertainty over standards, and businesses “cutting corners” or “gaming the system”.
The energy regulator Ofgem last year estimated businesses had falsified claims for ECO installations in between 5,600 and 16,500 homes.
That means they could have claimed between £56m and £165m from energy suppliers – ultimately paid for by bill-payers.
Image: More than 20,000 homes are said to be affected. File pic: iStock
Martin McCluskey, the government minister for energy consumers, criticised the “unacceptable, systemic failings” that had affected thousands of families.
He added: “We are fixing the broken system the last government left by introducing comprehensive reforms to make this process clear and straightforward, and in the rare cases where things go wrong, there will be clear lines of accountability, so consumers are guaranteed to get any problems fixed quickly.”
The government urged households to take up the free audit that will be offered in a forthcoming letter, and said installers would be forced to remedy the issues free of charge.
However, insulation has the potential to vastly improve homes, analysts pointed out.
Jess Ralston from energy think tank ECIU said: “The majority of households that have benefitted from insulation schemes have lower bills and warmer, healthy homes, particularly during the early years of the gas crisis when the UK’s poor quality housing stock was one of the reasons we were so badly hit compared to other European countries.”
Simon Francis, co-ordinator of the End Fuel Poverty Coalition, said: “Insulation and ventilation, when done properly, are among the safest and most effective ways to bring down energy bills and keep people warm.”
But the report had revealed a “system that has let cowboys through the front door, leaving thousands of victims living in misery and undermining public trust”.
Sue Davies, Which? head of consumer protection policy, called it “a damning indictment of a failed scheme, where poor oversight has allowed rogue traders to cause huge damage to people’s homes and lives”.
She said the government must take swift action to rectify the damage, as well as ensuring “there is no repeat of this scandal by putting in place robust consumer protections and effective oversight”.