A video has been released of Prince Harry comforting a mother as she opens up about the moment she had to tell her son his father had been killed in Afghanistan.
Ahead of Armed Forces Day on Saturday, the charity Scotty’s Little Soldiers, which supports bereaved military children, filmed the interview between its founder Nikki Scott and the Duke of Sussex, in which he also shares his own feelings about losing his mother.
In July 2009 Nikki was told her husband Corporal Lee Scott, who served with the 2nd Royal Tank Regiment had died, news she then had to share with five-year-old son, Kai, while also caring for their seven-month-old daughter, Brooke.
In a heartbreaking conversation with Harry she says: “It was the worst. How do you tell a five-year-old this?
Image: Cpl Scott with his wife Nikki and their children Kai (centre right) and Brooke before his deployment to Afghanistan Pic: Nikki Scott
“I took him up and sat him on the bed and I said, ‘Kai, do you remember where Daddy was?’ and he said, ‘yeah, Afghan‘, and I said, ‘something really bad has happened and the baddies (because he used to play army) have hurt dad and he’s died’.”
Bursting into tears she described the pain of “shattering her son’s world”.
Image: The body of Cpl Lee Scott arrives back in the UK, 14 July 2009 Pic: Ministry of Defence
Nikki’s personal tragedy inspired her to create Scotty’s Little Soldiers in 2010 to help other children. Prince Harry is the group’s global ambassador, and the conversation was filmed when he visited the UK and surprised children at a Scotty’s event in May.
More on Afghanistan
Related Topics:
In their chat, Nikki also refers to Harry’s experience of losing his mother Princess Diana when he was only 12, and how in his book Spare he talked about visiting the tunnel in Paris where she died.
Harry explained the complexity of dealing with his sense of loss, telling her: “You convince yourself that the person you’ve lost wants you, or you need to be sad for as long as possible to prove to them that they are missed.
Advertisement
“But then there’s this realisation of, no, they must want me to be happy.”
A huge advocate of the importance of discussing mental health, he said: “That’s the hardest thing, especially for kids, I think, which is, ‘I don’t want to talk about it because it will make me sad, but once realising if I do talk about it, and I’m celebrating their life, then actually, things become easier’.”
Please use Chrome browser for a more accessible video player
Scotty’s Little Soldiers currently supports over 680 children, but they estimate that each year 2,100 children are newly bereaved of a parent who served in the British Armed Forces.
To raise awareness of the ongoing need for help the charity has also recorded videos with some of the young people sharing their stories about their parents and “remembering their heroes” ahead of Armed Forces Day.
Rachel Reeves was never going to resign over her failure to apply for a permit to rent out her house in south London.
She is unlikely even to face a fine from Southwark council – the mea culpa from the estate agent will have absolved her of much of the political guilt.
The episode is a distraction from the far bigger challenge she faces ahead of next month’s budget – and the £30-40 billion black hole.
But that doesn’t mean this squall should be ignored entirely – for it tells us two important things.
The first is it reminds us of of one of Ms Reeves‘ traits that is at odds with the vibe she likes to present to the country: that she is not always as across the detail or on top of things as she would like to make out.
The chancellor first said she was not advised to get a permit by a letting agent, so did not do so. Then, 24 hours later, she said that she was told by the letting agency it would take care of a permit, and did not realise it had not.
Please use Chrome browser for a more accessible video player
4:42
‘Looks like an inadvertent error’
But is that quite good enough, particularly for someone who campaigned to strengthen exactly this law and who ended up deriving financial benefit for not doing so, to quite evidently not be across the detail?
In the aftermath of Angela Rayner’s resignation for a failure to comply with property law, might it not have been worthwhile for one to double-check the paperwork of one’s second home?
Then there have been other incidents in Ms Reeves’ life outside of being chancellor that jar with the image of a super-efficient stateswoman.
Ahead of the election, Ms Reeves was forced to hold her hands up and acknowledge making mistakes in her new book about female economists after she faced allegations of plagiarism.
She admitted that some sentences in her book, The Women Who Made Modern Economics, were “not properly referenced in the bibliography”.
She also had to update her LinkedIn after it emerged she was not an “economist” when she worked in financial services at a bank.
Image: Sir Keir Starmer speaks in the House of Commons
For a chancellor who faces making momentous decisions that will affect everybody in this country, lack of attention to detail is not a characteristic she would want extensively dwelt on. The bigger story this tells about her will sting.
The second thing it tells us is just how central she is to the Starmer project.
Number 10 moved to protect her within hours – publishing an exchange of letters late into Wednesday night that relied just on the account of Ms Reeves and apparently without corroborating evidence.
The government machine went out of its way in the fastest possible timeframe to try and shut the matter down – a courtesy not extended to Angela Rayner or Louise Haigh.
This is because Sir Keir knows a Reeves departure risks exposing himself – weeks before a budget that could determine this prime minister’s fate.
It also risks an adverse reaction in the bond markets, which fear higher-borrowing alternative candidates in the Treasury.
Neither outcome is one this government feels like it could cope with at the moment.
Rachel Reeves is quite simply the most important figure in Sir Keir Starmer’s administration, and this is why she is protected at almost any reasonable cost.
While this is true now, it may not always be this way, however. Will Sir Keir feel the same after 26 November when he has to defend the tax-raising budget?
For Shelley Mclean, every night is a sleepless one, just to keep her 11-year-old daughter alive.
Missy was born with a rare genetic condition that affects her breathing, digestion and movement.
She spent the first nine months of her life in hospital before coming home with a breathing tube in her throat, a feeding tube in her stomach, and a line into her bowel.
At first, the family had some NHS-funded nighttime care to help keep Missy safe while she slept.
But when her local NHS body decided she no longer met the threshold, that support was taken away.
Image: Missy has a breathing tube in her throat, a feeding tube in her stomach, and a line into her bowel
Now, Missy’s mother is responsible for her care.
“I’m her nurse, her physio, her carer,” says Shelley. “I don’t sleep properly because I’m scared she’ll stop breathing.
“They say we don’t meet the threshold – but I don’t know what more they need to see.”
Every night, Shelley prepares Missy’s medicines, checks her tubes, and monitors her breathing.
“This is an epilepsy medicine,” she says, holding up a syringe.
“If she’s not tolerating food orally, I put it down the tube.”
Despite her exhaustion, Shelley is grateful for the care that once saved her daughter’s life.
“I’m very grateful the NHS saved Missy – she wouldn’t be here without them. But they’re crippling the parents.”
Image: Shelley Mclean cares for her daughter Missy round the clock
The postcode lottery
Children like Missy who leave hospital but still need intensive support are meant to receive what’s called NHS continuing care – specialist help for those with the most complex, life-limiting or life-threatening needs.
But Sky News has seen new data which shows access to this care is deeply inconsistent across England, creating a postcode lottery that leaves many families struggling to survive without the help they require.
New figures obtained by Sky News reveal just how uneven continuing care has become.
NHS spending on children’s continuing care ranges from just 80p to £6 per head depending on where families live.
Out of almost 100,000 children in England with a life-limiting or life-threatening condition, only around 4% – roughly 4,400 – receive NHS continuing care funding.
And more than half of all disabled children referred for this kind of support are rejected.
Anna Bird, chief executive of charity Contact, says the system is leaving thousands of families on the brink.
“We’re not seeing the commitment to make sure those who need continuing care are getting it,” she told Sky News.
“Our research shows there’s a huge postcode lottery – families are running kind of little hospitals at home just to keep their children well and alive.
“They’re being let down by continuing care, and they’re not getting the support they need.”
In some areas, campaigners say local NHS bodies have cut back on support even for children with the most serious medical conditions.
Parents report being told their child no longer qualifies for help despite their needs remaining unchanged.
For Shelley, that decision means she rarely sleeps through the night.
“If I don’t go to her, she could be dead,” she says quietly. “She could have a fit and… you know, she could be dead.”
Image: Shelley, Missy and her brother
In a statement, NHS Cheshire and Merseyside said: “We understand Ms Mclean will be disappointed with the decision relating to her daughter’s funding.
“While we’re unable to comment on individual cases due to our commitment to patient confidentiality, all patients are reviewed jointly by health and care professionals to ensure they are receiving the most appropriate care for their needs.
“Patients who wish to discuss their funding decision are able to contact NHS Cheshire and Merseyside using the contact details included in their patient letters.”
But campaigners say that without national standards – and without the law forcing consistent assessments – those reviews will continue to vary wildly from one area to the next.
The result is that parents like Shelley find themselves trapped between two systems – the NHS and social care – neither of which can agree who is responsible.
“I’m not the type of person who wants to ask anyone for help,” she says. “But it’s brought me to my knees.”
For Shelley, that gap is more than bureaucratic. It’s personal, relentless, and exhausting.
“I would invite them to come and have a week in my position – to try to wake up every hour, on the hour, every night. Then they might understand.”
Campaigners say no parent should have to shoulder that burden alone – and they want ministers to act.
They’re calling on the government to make continuing care a statutory entitlement, with consistent assessments, proper funding, and transparency about who gets help and who doesn’t.
Until then, families like Shelley’s will continue to do the work of the NHS from their own homes – unpaid, unsupported, and exhausted.
Image: Shelley feeding Missy
The Department for Health and Social Care said: “Our thoughts go out to Shelley and Missy – everyone should have access to high-quality, compassionate care.
“As part of our 10-Year Health Plan, the government is shifting more healthcare out of hospitals and into the community, to ensure patients and their families can get the care they need, where and when they need it.
“Integrated Care Boards are responsible for meeting the needs of local people – including Children and Young People’s Continuing Care and ensuring the care requirements of people like Missy and Shelley are met.
“This government has set out best practice, and provided guidance around assessments, decision-making and agreeing care packages for Children and Young People’s Continuing Care.”
The UK has chartered flights to help transport British nationals out of Jamaica after Hurricane Melissa ripped through the Caribbean.
Up to 8,000 holidaying British citizens are in Jamaica as it reels from one of the strongest Atlantic hurricanes in history, with speeds of 185mph.
People have been ordered to stay indoors after Hurricane Melissa swept over the Caribbean island, which is also home to 50,000 dual nationals, with tourists locked down in hotels.
The Foreign, Commonwealth and Development Office (FCDO) said in a statement that it was chartering the flights to help bolster commercial capacity.
Image: Residents stand on the wreckage of a house destroyed by Hurricane Melissa in Santa Cruz, Jamaica.
Pic: AP
Image: Pic: Reuters
Image: Drone view of damage to coastal homes in Alligator Pond, Jamaica.
Pic Reuters
It said the chartered flights were for those “who are unable to fly home commercially”, but that it was also working closely with travel companies to restore flights for holidaymakers and British nationals.
“All British nationals who have already registered via the Register Your Presence portal will automatically be contacted and provided with a link to the booking portal once airports are open,” an FCDO spokesperson said.
“If you are a British national in Jamaica wanting to leave on a flight and have not already registered your presence, you should do so immediately.”
Please use Chrome browser for a more accessible video player
0:44
‘Unimaginable’ destruction of Hurricane Melissa in Jamaica
The FCDO urged travellers to contact their airline or travel provider first to see if commercial options are available, and if they have already booked a flight back to the UK, to confirm if it is still operating.
“We will prioritise those who are most vulnerable, for example, those with medical needs and children, in allocating seats on the flight. The cost of a seat will be based on standard commercial rates,” the government said.
Eligible are British nationals and their immediate family members, which include partners or spouses and children under 18, as well as Windrush generations with indefinite leave to remain in the UK. All passengers must hold a valid travel document.
Please use Chrome browser for a more accessible video player
0:31
Aftermath of Hurricane Melissa in Jamaica
The FCDO said it would contact those who are allocated a seat on the flights directly, and urged British nationals not to make their way to the airport unless they are contacted.
Image: Drone view of flooding after Hurricane Melissa made landfall in St Elizabeth, Jamaica. Pic: Reuters
Image: Streets covered with mud, after Hurricane Melissa passed the Catherine Hall community in Montego Bay, Jamaica.
Pic: Reuters
Foreign Secretary Yvette Cooper said: “The strong links between the UK and Jamaica mean many British nationals were there during the devastation of the hurricane, and we need to ensure they can get safely home, as we know how worrying and difficult the last few days will have been.
“The UK government is chartering flights to bolster commercial capacity and ensure people who wish to return to the UK can do so as soon as possible.”
It comes after the government announced it was making £2.5m available in emergency humanitarian funding to assist recovery efforts from the devastation Hurricane Melissa caused in the Caribbean.
At least 34 people have been killed in the hurricane. Eight of the deaths so far have come in Jamaica, one in the Dominican Republic, and 25 in Haiti.