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Emma Mills-Sheffield knows all too well the grief that suicide brings. Her sister Lou took her own life. And so too did their maternal grandmother. Emma’s father tried too.

“The cycle of grief was immense and deep,” she explains as we sit and talk in her Hove home.

“It’s not straightforward when someone takes their own life; the anger, the disbelief, the constant searching. There must have been evidence. There must have been something we could have done. There must have been a note. There must have been something.

“And then the anger around, weirdly, other people. People don’t know what to say or do.”

After years of decline, suicide rates are rising – especially among women.

In 2023 in England and Wales, they reached levels not seen since 1999. Some 6,069 suicides were registered in the two nations in 2023, up from 5,642 in 2022.

Suicide data is complex and can be quite hard to interpret.

The official figures have been disputed, with some experts saying they have been oversimplified. This is partly because suicides can take a while to be registered and show up in the official data.

But what can’t be disputed is that far too many people are taking their own lives.

This is a public health crisis that needs urgent intervention, according to suicide prevention charities, which are seeing a surge in the number of women seeking help.

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‘Women are experiencing high levels of depression and anxiety’

Rachael Swann, CEO of Grassroots Suicide Prevention, a charity that helps people in crisis, says 70% of users of their Stay Alive mobile app, which connects people to support, are now women.

The rise in women taking their own lives is attributed to many factors, including menopause and perinatal depression, she says.

Rachel Swann, CEO of Grassroots Suicide Prevention
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Rachael Swann, CEO of Grassroots Suicide Prevention

“As a midlife mum myself, I could really see the pressures,” she says.

“Women are really experiencing high levels of depression and anxiety, and there’s been a high level of domestic abuse following the pandemic.

“And then we’ve got that middle age group of 45 to 64-year-olds, who are the sandwich generation. So they might be juggling caring responsibilities, working and childcare. I’m in that space and there really is very little time and space for self-care.”

More attempts ‘than I have been able to count’, survivor says

Olivia-Louise Hamilton has been trying to take her own life since she was 12 years old.

She had a difficult childhood and battled for years with her poor mental health. She is 29 now and the dark winter months are challenging.

Olivia-Louise Hamilton
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Olivia-Louise Hamilton

“There are more times than I have been able to count,” she explains about her attempts to take her own life.

“And they were quite different in the lead-up to it. Some of them were very, very impulsive, maybe in response to a certain trigger or because I’ve been sort of misusing alcohol, whereas others were a lot more premeditated, there was a lot more planning and that longer-term thought that went into them.”

‘I’m always going to be vulnerable’

Ms Hamilton is in a much better place now, but that does not mean her struggle is over. It is always there.

“I think I’d be lying if I said it isn’t something that’s on my mind. I think that I’m always going to be vulnerable to those sorts of thoughts just because of my history,” she says.

“But equally, the skills and the tools that I’ve learned over the years, I think really help me move forward with the hope that things might be different.

“I always think I’m hopeful. I’m hopeful enough that I won’t have a crisis. But I guess I’m not stupid enough to think that that won’t ever happen.”

Labour has promised to tackle suicide

The Labour government has promised to tackle suicide with the recruitment of over 8,000 new mental health staff specially trained to support people at risk of suicide.

In its 2024 manifesto, it said it would “deliver a renewed drive to tackle the biggest killers”, including suicide.

Ms Hamilton can tell when things are getting too much and how to reach for help. But tragically, it’s not the same for thousands of other women.

Anyone feeling emotionally distressed or suicidal can call Samaritans for help on 116 123 or email jo@samaritans.org in the UK. In the US, call the Samaritans branch in your area or 1 (800) 273-TALK.

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Asylum seekers come face-to-face with migrant hotel critics

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Asylum seekers come face-to-face with migrant hotel critics

“It makes me sad. We left when our country had the troubles so we should have in this world… the humanity”.

We’re sitting in a cafe in Tamworth and Noor, 19, is explaining how it feels to know there are people in the town who don’t want him here.

Noor is from Afghanistan and came to the UK on a small boat.

The cafe is close to the asylum hotel where he’s staying.

The group met in a cafe in Tamworth
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The group met in a cafe in Tamworth

He’s agreed to come along with four other men from the hotel to speak to locals about the concern in the town over the Staffordshire hotel being used to house asylum seekers.

There was a peaceful demonstration outside the hotel last month. But last year, a protest here turned ugly. Windows were smashed, petrol bombs thrown, and part of the hotel was set alight.

Among the locals in the cafe is Tom, 25, who reveals he was at both protests.

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Tom (left) has attended anti-migration protests in Tamworth
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Tom (left) has attended anti-migration protests in Tamworth

He says he was persuaded to go by friends and explains to the group why they decided to go.

“They were annoyed, angry, fuming that the government had let them [asylum seekers] live in a hotel,” he says.

Noor, who speaks the best English of the asylum seekers in the group, replies: “What did we do wrong?”

Noor says he is upset by people who do not want him in the UK
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Noor says he is upset by people who do not want him in the UK

“Your government accepts us as asylum seekers,” he continues.

Tom thinks. “I’m more annoyed with the government than you guys,” he tells them.

‘A place to get the golden ticket’

Noor explains to the group how he ended up in the UK. He left Afghanistan four years ago with his family but they were separated on the journey. He doesn’t know where they are.

Heather, a 29-year-old local accountant, speaks up.

Heather says protests outside hotels makes asylum seekers fearful
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Heather says protests outside hotels makes asylum seekers fearful

“When people protest, I’m like, why don’t you protest near the government?” she asks. “Why don’t you take your issue to them rather than being outside the hotel?”

“Those asylum seekers aren’t going to change the policy at all,” she adds. “It’s just going to make them fearful.”

Each of the locals in the cafe has their own take on why some don’t like the asylum seekers living in their town.

“I think they feel like they’re living better than the British people, some of them, and it’s almost like they feel offended,” says Andrew, 47.

“Some people in the UK see how the asylum seekers are coming over to Britain because they see it as a place to get the golden ticket,” he adds.

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Heather agrees. She says the NHS is a draw and the UK also has “different border control regulations that might be seen as weaker than in some other countries”.

“You get to stay in a hotel,” she tells the asylum seekers. “You get the free health care. And so I think that’s why they’re a little bit annoyed.”

Noor replies: “One thing I should tell you is that when we cross the English Channel, it means we don’t care about our life. It’s very dangerous.”

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Noor and four other asylum seekers joined the meeting
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Noor and four other asylum seekers joined the meeting

Links to the UK

I’m keen to know why they chose to come to Britain. Noor tells the group it’s because he has a relative here and speaks the language.

Azim, 22, who is also from Afghanistan, says he came here because people in the UK “have respect to Islam”.

He also has a family member here.

Azim says people in the UK are respectful of Islam
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Azim says people in the UK are respectful of Islam

I ask them if they could have claimed asylum in France, but Noor says his “only hope was England”.

He says it’s “better for education” here. All the men agree it’s seen as the better place to come.

The conversation moves to the protests this summer which began in Epping, Essex, after an asylum seeker there was charged with sexually assaulting a schoolgirl – an offence he has now been convicted of.

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Noor believes British people have a right to be angry about that. He tells the group he believes that asylum seekers who commit crimes “should get back to their country”.

“We also [do] not support them,” he says.

Over the course of the meeting, the mood becomes more relaxed. People with different views find some common ground.

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Immigration Debate audience have their say

Noor tells the group that if things improve in Afghanistan he would like to go back there one day.

If not, he hopes he’ll stay in the UK and earn enough to repay in taxes the bill for the hotel he’s staying in now.

It has been a frank exchange. Some in this town will never want asylum seekers here and people like Noor and Azim know it.

But they were placed here by the Home Office and can only wait until their asylum claims are processed.

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‘They’re in conditions you can’t even imagine’: Son of UK couple held in Iran renews plea for their release

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'They're in conditions you can't even imagine': Son of UK couple held in Iran renews plea for their release

“Mum is teaching yoga and English to her cellmates in Iranian prison.”

It’s now over eight months since British couple Lindsay and Craig Foreman were detained in Iran.

Last week, during a long-awaited visit from British ambassador Hugo Shorter, it was confirmed that the pair continue to endure tough conditions with no indication of how – or when – the legal process will proceed.

“They’re both coping, making the best of a bad situation. They’re in conditions you can’t even imagine.”

Lindsay Foreman with son Joe Bennett. Pic: Family handout
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Lindsay Foreman with son Joe Bennett. Pic: Family handout

Speaking to Sky News, their son Joe Bennett explained how the couple have been crammed into cells with more than 50 other prisoners, while suffering constant back pain caused by metal bunk beds.

“The beds are stacked three high. It’s unsanitary. It’s hot. There are often power outages and they’re in 50-degree heat.”

Craig and Lindsay Foreman. Pic: Family handout
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Craig and Lindsay Foreman. Pic: Family handout

Lindsay and Craig, both 52, were arrested in early January in Iran, as they crossed the country on motorbikes as part of an around-the-world adventure. The couple had left Spain just a few weeks earlier and were aiming to drive all the way to Australia.

They were charged with espionage and have been transferred to various prisons around Iran, with little information provided to British diplomatic staff about their whereabouts.

Joe and the rest of the family have only managed to speak to their parents once on the phone. “In a brief conversation that I had with my mum, we managed to share a laugh and a lot of tears as well. But it’s a test of time, how long they can keep this up for.”

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Pic: Family handout

The UK ambassador’s meeting with Craig was the first in over four months, and despite suffering from untreated dental pain, he quipped about becoming a “reluctant Arsenal supporter” while watching football on television with other prisoners.

The couple were previously held together in a facility in the Iranian city of Kerman but have been moved to separate prisons in the capital, Tehran. Family members are calling on the Iranians to move Lindsay into the same facility where Craig is being detained.

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Pic: Family handout

Their son acknowledged in his interview with Sky News that he was frustrated with his parents when they were arrested in January. Family members had urged them not to travel through the country.

“I had that natural reaction that some of the public do – why did they go? It’s idiotic, you’re going against the advice, and it serves them right. That’s fair enough when you don’t know them [but] just picture your parents having a bit of a sense of adventure… it’s a different story.”

The Foreign, Commonwealth and Development Office says it is “deeply concerned” about the couple, adding, “we continue to raise this case directly with the Iranian authorities”.

Members of the Foreman family are urging the British government and the new foreign secretary, Yvette Cooper, to take direct action to improve harsh prison conditions and urgently organise for Lindsay and Craig’s release.

“I need them home, you know, and I need them home as soon as possible. We need them, the family miss them dearly – so we’re going to do everything we can to make that possible.”

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No 10 appointed Mandelson despite security concerns, Sky News understands

The security services expressed concern about the appointment of Lord Mandelson as ambassador to Washington, but No 10 went ahead anyway, Sky News understands.

Downing Street today defended the extensive vetting process which senior civil servants go through in order to get jobs, raising questions about whether or not they missed something or No 10 ignored their advice.

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Sky News has been told by two sources that the security services did flag concerns as part of the process.

No 10 did not judge these concerns as enough to stop the ambassadorial appointment.

It is not known whether all of the detail was shared with Prime Minister Sir Keir Starmer personally.

Sky News has been told some members of the security services are unhappy with what has taken place in Downing Street.

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Lord Mandelson is close to Sir Keir’s chief of staff, Morgan McSweeney, who is known to have been keen on the appointment – and the pair spoke regularly.

No 10 says the security vetting process is all done at a departmental level with no No 10 involvement.

Shadow foreign secretary Priti Patel described the revelations as “extraordinary”.

“For Keir Starmer, and his Chief of Staff Morgan McSweeney, to have appointed Lord Mandelson despite concerns being raised by the security services shows a blatant disregard of all national security considerations and their determination to promote their Labour Party friends,” she said in a statement.

“Starmer leads a crisis riddled government consumed by a chaos of his own making, because he puts his Party before the needs of our country.

“The country deserves the honest truth this spineless prime minister refuses to give them.”

Priti Patel described the revelations as 'extraordinary'.
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Priti Patel described the revelations as ‘extraordinary’.

Lord Mandelson was sacked as the UK’s ambassador to the US by Sir Keir earlier on Thursday over his ties to disgraced financier Jeffrey Epstein.

The prime minister, who selected Lord Mandelson for the role, made the decision after new emails revealed the Labour peer sent messages of support to Epstein even as he faced jail for sex offences in 2008.

In one particular message, Lord Mandelson had suggested that Epstein’s first conviction was wrongful and should be challenged.

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The Foreign Office said the emails showed “the depth and extent of Peter Mandelson’s relationship with Jeffrey Epstein is materially different from that known at the time of his appointment”.

The decision to sack the diplomat was made by the prime minister and Foreign Secretary Yvette Cooper on Thursday morning, Sky News understands.

This was after Sir Keir had reviewed all the new available information last night.

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Harriet Harman, Ruth Davidson, and Beth Rigby react to the news of Lord Mandelson’s sacking.

It comes after a string of allegations around the diplomat’s relationship with Epstein, which emerged in the media this week, including a 2003 birthday message in which he called the sex offender his “best pal”.

Further allegations were then published in The Telegraph on Wednesday morning, suggesting that Lord Mandelson had emailed Epstein to set up business meetings following the latter’s conviction for child sex offences in 2008.

Additional emails were then published detailing how the diplomat wrote to Epstein the day before he went to prison in June 2008 to serve time for soliciting sex from a minor. Lord Mandelson said: “I think the world of you.”

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