Connect with us

Published

on

It’s a rare thing, a group of men in a room, talking about their mental health. They have all led difficult lives, and they don’t usually talk about it.

They throw a ball around the room to indicate whose turn it is to speak. “When a man talks about his emotions he is often told, ‘don’t be a girl… man up’,” offers one participant, Harry Lambert.

He has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and describes not airing problems as like “allowing a poison to build up inside”.

Harry Lambert, who has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder
Image:
Harry Lambert has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder

This mentoring weekend, offered by the charity Oak London, is an opportunity for these men to release some of that poison.

Charities warn this time of year can be extra difficult for those struggling with their mental health.

Men are more likely to go missing, sleep rough, and become dependent on drugs and alcohol – all contributing to a higher suicide rate compared to women. It is the most common cause of death for men under 50.

In the room with sofas around the edge, the men – mostly in their 20s – have come from various unstable settings.

More on Mental Health

Some are referred from probation services, others have been homeless and responded to flyers put out in London hostels offering a retreat to Bristol and a weekend to “escape your everyday surroundings” and “develop your relationship with yourself and others”.

The first section of the session is about recognising the stereotypes of manhood. Participants offer up words for the whiteboard – including dominant, macho, stoic.

Physically, all of them size up more than most to these expectations, but as their tattooed hands write down shortcomings on pieces of paper, the insecurities come to light.

“You make people scared,” one writes.

‘A lot of people don’t show emotion’

This prompts a discussion about how they should respond when someone is visibly scared of them as they walk down the street.

“I feel like if I’ve scared you, I feel like the one thing I don’t want to then do, is approach you and say, like, ‘sorry’.”

The other men agree this wouldn’t work, but all recognise the sense of isolation their physical appearance can create. At the same time, they accept, they often want to look tough.

“A lot of people I know, they don’t show any sort of emotion,” says Shareef Venson, an ex-participant and now helper.

“But you can see that they’re struggling with certain issues. It’s just that they feel like they can’t physically show it.”

Several factors that affect men’s mental health

Benjamin Kuti, a soft-spoken young man, had a difficult childhood, often without his mother present. He has dyspraxia but says many factors can play on his mental health.

Benjamin Kuti says many factors can play on his mental health
Image:
Benjamin Kuti says many factors can play on his mental health

“Being unemployed, for example, or even just being isolated. That can just impact your psychological state. It’s a very small, blurred line. I really struggle to create meaningful relationships with people where it’s like, this person actually sees me, or this person actually likes me – for me.”

Wealth, and failing to accumulate it, is another recurring theme.

The handwritten sticky notes are attached to bricks and Shareef stands in the middle while the men pile them into his arms saying the words on the paper: “You scare people”, “you failed in your job”, “you have a low self-esteem”. One of the last ones reads, “you should jump”.

Loaded up with all the notes a mentor asks Shareef: “How would it feel going for a job carrying all those bricks?”

“I wouldn’t apply for anything,” he says.

One of the exercises the men do to tackle their mental health struggles
Image:
One of the exercises the men do to tackle their mental health struggles

And so, the lesson is to try to remove them, reject them, pass them back, put them on the floor, share them out, so you carry fewer.

Rare opportunity to talk about struggles

Mental health among men often goes undiagnosed. Only about half of those suffering from a mental health problem seek help. That means they often carry the burden alone.

Jos Lucas, founder of Oak London, says: “Because we’re outside of London, outside of distractions, outside of people having to look over their shoulder every minute… I think it naturally happens, in group discussions, that people do feel that they can trust each other, they can talk about things that they might not otherwise have the opportunity to talk about.”

Jos Lucas, founder of Oak London
Image:
Jos Lucas, founder of Oak London

Harry, who has self-harmed and struggled with depression and anxiety since the age of 13 says he didn’t get a diagnosis for his personality disorder until he was 19.

He describes his symptoms as “heightened anxiety, heightened depression, major mood swings, manic episodes and extremely depressive episodes, along with things like suicidal thoughts and tendency to things like addiction”.

He is still on the waiting list for therapy. The conversations he has had with other men at the Oak London project have been some of the most open and honest he’s ever had.

‘I can talk openly without being judged’

He said: “A lot of times you talk to your friends and especially with men, you talk to them and say, how are you doing People say ‘Yeah, I’m good,’ and they won’t be good because they think you either don’t care or they think you don’t hear it, or they’re worried that you’re going to judge them.”

“Whereas here in Oak London, this is the only place I’ve ever been to where I felt I can go and I can talk openly without being judged, while trying to help other people and help myself.

“It’s okay to be vulnerable. And I think that’s the message that urgently needs to be out there, because there’s so much stigma around how a man needs to be dominant, masculine and stoic, but if you’re an emotional man, a sensitive man, embrace that, that’s okay. And if you feel like you want to talk, talk to someone.”

Back in London, life’s troubles await these young men but addressing them by saying them out loud, and hearing of them in others, may just help.

Continue Reading

UK

Chancellor admits tax rises and spending cuts considered for budget

Published

on

By

Chancellor admits tax rises and spending cuts considered for budget

Rachel Reeves has told Sky News she is looking at both tax rises and spending cuts in the budget, in her first interview since being briefed on the scale of the fiscal black hole she faces.

“Of course, we’re looking at tax and spending as well,” the chancellor said when asked how she would deal with the country’s economic challenges in her 26 November statement.

Politics Hub: Follow latest updates

Ms Reeves was shown the first draft of the Office for Budget Responsibility’s (OBR) report, revealing the size of the black hole she must fill next month, on Friday 3 October.

She has never previously publicly confirmed tax rises are on the cards in the budget, going out of her way to avoid mentioning tax in interviews two weeks ago.

Please use Chrome browser for a more accessible video player

Chancellor pledges not to raise VAT

Cabinet ministers had previously indicated they did not expect future spending cuts would be used to ensure the chancellor met her fiscal rules.

Ms Reeves also responded to questions about whether the economy was in a “doom loop” of annual tax rises to fill annual black holes. She appeared to concede she is trapped in such a loop.

Asked if she could promise she won’t allow the economy to get stuck in a doom loop cycle, Ms Reeves replied: “Nobody wants that cycle to end more than I do.”

She said that is why she is trying to grow the economy, and only when pushed a third time did she suggest she “would not use those (doom loop) words” because the UK had the strongest growing economy in the G7 in the first half of this year.

What’s facing Reeves?

Ms Reeves is expected to have to find up to £30bn at the budget to balance the books, after a U-turn on winter fuel and welfare reforms and a big productivity downgrade by the OBR, which means Britain is expected to earn less in future than previously predicted.

Yesterday, the IMF upgraded UK growth projections by 0.1 percentage points to 1.3% of GDP this year – but also trimmed its forecast by 0.1% next year, also putting it at 1.3%.

The UK growth prospects are 0.4 percentage points worse off than the IMF’s projects last autumn. The 1.3% GDP growth would be the second-fastest in the G7, behind the US.

Last night, the chancellor arrived in Washington for the annual IMF and World Bank conference.

Read more:
Jobs market continues to slow
Banks step up lobbying over threat of tax hikes

Please use Chrome browser for a more accessible video player

The big issues facing the UK economy

‘I won’t duck challenges’

In her Sky News interview, Ms Reeves said multiple challenges meant there was a fresh need to balance the books.

“I was really clear during the general election campaign – and we discussed this many times – that I would always make sure the numbers add up,” she said.

“Challenges are being thrown our way – whether that is the geopolitical uncertainties, the conflicts around the world, the increased tariffs and barriers to trade. And now this (OBR) review is looking at how productive our economy has been in the past and then projecting that forward.”

She was clear that relaxing the fiscal rules (the main one being that from 2029-30, the government’s day-to-day spending needs to rely on taxation alone, not borrowing) was not an option, making tax rises all but inevitable.

“I won’t duck those challenges,” she said.

“Of course, we’re looking at tax and spending as well, but the numbers will always add up with me as chancellor because we saw just three years ago what happens when a government, where the Conservatives, lost control of the public finances: inflation and interest rates went through the roof.”

Pic: PA
Image:
Pic: PA

Blame it on the B word?

Ms Reeves also lay responsibility for the scale of the black hole she’s facing at Brexit, along with austerity and the mini-budget.

This could risk a confrontation with the party’s own voters – one in five (19%) Leave voters backed Labour at the last election, playing a big role in assuring the party’s landslide victory.

The chancellor said: “Austerity, Brexit, and the ongoing impact of Liz Truss’s mini-budget, all of those things have weighed heavily on the UK economy.

“Already, people thought that the UK economy would be 4% smaller because of Brexit.

“Now, of course, we are undoing some of that damage by the deal that we did with the EU earlier this year on food and farming, goods moving between us and the continent, on energy and electricity trading, on an ambitious youth mobility scheme, but there is no doubting that the impact of Brexit is severe and long-lasting.”

Continue Reading

UK

UK must prepare for 2C of warming by 2050, government told for first time

Published

on

By

UK must prepare for 2C of warming by 2050, government told for first time

Britain must prepare for at least 2C of warming within just 25 years, the government has been advised by its top climate advisers.

That limit is hotter and sooner than most of the previous official advice, and is worse than the 1.5C level most of the world has been trying to stick to.

What is the 1.5C temperature threshold?

Under the 2015 Paris Agreement, countries agreed to try to limit warming to “well below” 2C – and ideally 1.5C.

But with global average temperatures already nearing 1.4C, warnings that we may have blown our chances of staying at 1.5C have been growing.

This new warning from the government’s top advisers, the independent Climate Change Committee (CCC), spells out the risk to the UK in the starkest terms yet.

In a letter today, the CCC said ministers should “at a minimum, prepare the country for the weather extremes that will be experienced if global warming levels reach 2C above pre-industrial levels by 2050”.

It is the first time the committee has recommended such a target, in the hopes of kickstarting efforts to make everything from flooded train tracks to sweltering classrooms more resilient in a hotter world – after years of warnings the country is woefully unprepared.

Periods of drought in England are expected to double at 2C of global warming, compared to the recent average period of 1981 to 2010. Pic: PA
Image:
Periods of drought in England are expected to double at 2C of global warming, compared to the recent average period of 1981 to 2010. Pic: PA

How climate change affects the UK

The UK is already struggling to cope with the drought, flooding, and heat brought by the current 1.4C – “let alone” what is to come, the advisers said.

Just this year, the country battled the second-worst harvest on record and hottest summer ever, which saw an extra 300 Londoners die.

“Though the change from 1.5C and 2C may sound small, the difference in impacts would be substantial,” CCC adviser Professor Richard Betts told Sky News.

It would mean twice as many people at risk of flooding in some areas, and in southern England, 10 times as many days with a very high risk of wildfires – an emerging risk for Britain.

The experts said the mass building the government is currently pushing, including new nuclear power stations and homes, should even be adaptable for 4C of warming in the future – a level unlikely, but which cannot be ruled out.

At 2C, peak average rainfall in the UK is expected to increase by up to 10–15% for the wettest days. Pic: Reuters
Image:
At 2C, peak average rainfall in the UK is expected to increase by up to 10–15% for the wettest days. Pic: Reuters

Is it too late to stop climate change or limit to 1.5C?

The CCC’s Baroness Brown said in a briefing: “We continue to believe 1.5C is achievable as a long-term goal.

“But clearly the risk it will not be achieved is getting higher, and for risk management we do believe we have to plan for 2C.”

World leaders will discuss their plans to adapt to hotter temperatures at the COP30 climate summit in Brazil in November.

Professor Eric Wolff, who advises the Royal Society, said leaders needed to wake up.

“It is now very challenging even to stay below two degrees,” he told Sky News.

“This is a wake-up call both to continue reducing emissions, but at the same time to prepare our infrastructure and economy for the inevitable climate changes that we are already committed to.”

Continue Reading

UK

Premier League players to take knee for first time this season

Published

on

By

Premier League players to take knee for first time this season

Premier League chief executive Richard Masters has told Sky News players will take the knee at this weekend’s matches amid ongoing discussions about whether the anti-racism move is still effective.

Captains of the 20 clubs are understood to back the move, although players could decide individually to opt out.

The majority of Women’s Super League teams recently decided against taking the knee in games marking Black History Month, feeling it was no longer meaningful amid a rise in racism.

Arsenal's Declan Rice takes the knee in a match last season. Pic: Reuters
Image:
Arsenal’s Declan Rice takes the knee in a match last season. Pic: Reuters

Sky News revealed last week that online racism cases in English football have quadrupled this season.

And in his exclusive interview, Mr Masters raised concerns about the anonymity of social media users posting abuse and questioned whether identity checks were now necessary.

The Premier League wants platforms to do more to change algorithms to stop players seeing the abuse, and to introduce additional protections to stop it reaching their inboxes.

Football frames racism as a societal problem – requiring education – and Sky News accompanied Mr Masters on a school visit in west London, where the Premier League linked up with Brentford.

Premier League chief executive Richard Masters
Image:
Premier League chief executive Richard Masters

Taking the knee

This weekend’s matches will highlight the league’s “No Room for Racism” campaign to combat discrimination and promote equality.

It was in 2020, inspired by the Black Lives Matter movement, that Premier League players started to take the knee before kick-off.

But questions about the effectiveness of the gesture have grown.

“It’s always been their choice,” Mr Masters told Sky News of the players. “It’s never been something that has been forced upon them, either collectively or individually. They had another discussion in the summer.

“They’re going to do it really at the No Room for Racism match rounds. We then decide whether they want to continue or stop. So I think they want to make sure whatever they do, it’s effective.”

The Premier League's 'No room for racism' campaign has adorned team kits. Pic: PA
Image:
The Premier League’s ‘No room for racism’ campaign has adorned team kits. Pic: PA

‘You’ll be dealt with’

This is a season that began with Bournemouth’s Antoine Semenyo reporting being racially abused at Liverpool, although Mr Masters said “the protocols worked”.

He added: “A lot of our players and participants, managers, referees are subject to abuse, a lot of it racism.

“And we’re trying our best to deal with that, working with our stakeholders and working with the social media companies to try to solve those issues.”

Bournemouth's Antoine Semenyo (left) was racially abused at Anfield this season. Pic: PA
Image:
Bournemouth’s Antoine Semenyo (left) was racially abused at Anfield this season. Pic: PA

For the league, that is not symptomatic of racist abuse becoming more prevalent in stadiums.

“The Premier League is a very permissive environment,” Mr Masters said. “Very few other places you can come and scream and shout and support your team.

“But I think that fans know where that line is. No violence, no threatened intimidation, and no discrimination. If you do, then you’ll be dealt with.”

Polarised society

The political climate can become problematic, although Mr Masters does not directly reference the summer’s anti-immigration protests when asked.

“Those are political issues, and I think that football’s role is to provide that distraction,” he said.

“Football stands slightly to the side to where society is at the moment, where we are seeing a little bit of polarisation of views. Football, I think, can help in that aspect.”

Semenyo has been one of this campaign's star perfomers. Pic: PA
Image:
Semenyo has been one of this campaign’s star perfomers. Pic: PA

Social media anonymity

Too many feel they can hurl racist abuse at footballers on social media – and Mr Masters insists the league is “very restless” about eradicating that.

Greater identity checks could help.

Mr Masters said: “There’s an anonymity to it, I think, which, perhaps wrongly, in my view, gives people the view that they can pretty much say and do what they want.

“And I just simply don’t think it should be part of a professional footballer’s life to have to put up with this sort of stuff, which is why we’re taking what action we can.

“Obviously, anything that makes it easier [to find the perpetrators] I would be in principle supportive of, but I think it goes to a lot of other issues around freedom of information.”

Please use Chrome browser for a more accessible video player

Football sees surge in online hate

AI and algorithms

There is a unit at the Premier League dedicated to pursuing social media firms over racist abuse, which has no complaints publicly about the conduct of the tech giants.

But the league’s director of content protection, Tim Cooper, told Sky News: “The platforms can do more by changing their algorithms, looking at the opting in to see abuse rather than perhaps opting out of seeing it. That would be a step in the right direction.

“And ultimately, it’s for us to keep trying to push cases through and get good real-world deterrent actions, alongside law enforcement and other enforcement bodies around the world.”

There are concerns about the use of AI to create racist images and abusers using phrases or jumbled letters to circumvent algorithms.

Read more from Sky News:
England qualify for 2026 World Cup

Why has the weather been gloomy recently

“It’s very much gone beyond just a text rant now, which is obviously bad enough, but now we’re seeing that people are using images to create some of the most offensive things that you could imagine,” Mr Cooper said.

“I think video will be something in the future going forward that could be a problem, and we have seen that with deepfakes.”

Instagram owner Meta and Elon Musk‘s X both said they would not provide detail about any work to eradicate racism – declining months of requests for interviews.

Please use Chrome browser for a more accessible video player

FA considering social media boycott over racism

Being on social media means children are more aware than ever of incidents of racist abuse across football.

After leading the class in west London, Premier League Primary Stars coordinator Benjamin Abrahams said: “Having to speak to young pupils about things they’ve heard, things they know about, can sometimes be tough.

“But actually, it’s a great chance to speak to them and have those open conversations. To discuss why things are said, why things happen, but [why] it’s not right, and be able to discuss what is correct and what should we all hope for.”

Continue Reading

Trending