Evie likes scary movies, musicals and Taylor Swift – but there is something that sets her apart.
The 16-year-old hates the way other children at school casually joke about suicide.
“People saying things like ‘I’m going to kill myself if I have to sit another maths test’, you’d be surprised how often people say things like that,” Evie Roodhouse tells me.
“People don’t understand the seriousness, saying they are ‘depressed’ as if it’s a positive thing. I think it’s become even a trend that some people think is cool or funny.”
Evie and younger sister Ada lost their father in 2018, and what they rarely tell anyone is that was suicide. However, Evie’s approach to this deeply personal subject is about to change. She has decided to give a school assembly on the subject.
Image: Evie, Ada and their dad
Eight-year-old sister Ada supports Evie’s decision and has experienced her own frustrations: “She [Evie] gets people joking about it,” says Ada, “In my school I just get people, like, complaining about their parents being gone for a week, say on holiday, especially their dad. ‘My dad’s going to this place for a week, and I won’t get to see him.’ ‘Oh he’s not here on Father’s Day.’ Or, ‘he’ll be away for a whole month, that’s almost as much as you.’ – It’s not. It’s really not.”
It’s entirely understandable that, up until now, Evie has been extremely private around the cause of her father’s death. Her presentation on the subject for a room of her peers at Brighton Hill Community School in Basingstoke, would surely be one of the most courageous school assemblies ever given.
The night before, I met up with Evie along with Mother Caroline and sister Ada. “This is the first time I’ve openly shared my own personal experience, my story so that’s where the nerves are coming in,” Evie says as we get on to the subject of her presentation.
Image: Evie speaks to Sky’s Jason Farrell
Her previous experience of confiding in friends is that their response varies between asking invasive questions, wanting details that Evie doesn’t want to share, or they feel awkward and change the subject. What Evie wants is for people to be able to talk about the subject and understand how to talk about it, especially if they themselves are struggling.
“With mental health we know that opening up and talking about it is the best thing you can do,” she says. “I think we understand ourselves better if we talk about our mental health. Communication is the best way around the stigma.”
However, this conversation around Evie’s home dining table is going to take us to some dark places, and it occurs to me how difficult it must have been for Caroline to explain what happened, to her young children. Did she have a choice? Could she have invented some other form of death to protect them from the truth?
Caroline explains her decision to tell them. “I had no idea Steve was going to take his own life. On the day I found out, luckily a friend of mine contacted an amazing charity called Winston’s Wish and they gave me some important advice, and that was honesty.
“However, uncomfortable that was, however brutal that was at the time. I’m grateful for that advice – because it’s meant that we’ve always had trust between us.”
Image: Ada and mum Caroline
Suicide rates in the UK have remained roughly the same for the last two decades, although the 7,055 deaths recorded in 2023 was the highest rate since 1999.
Men are three times more likely to take their own lives, and with Evie and Ada’s father there was no warning and no note to explain why.
Caroline says loss by suicide is “grief with a microphone”. One of the hardest things for her to manage has been her feeling of abandonment.
“I wanted to talk to Steve, and he’s the person responsible for not being here. Trying to get your head round the fact that, yes, they took their own life, but they weren’t in a rational state at that point in time, but then you’re feeling angry at the same time. It’s tiring. It’s exhausting.”
Eight-year-old Ada picks up: “You don’t blame them for being sad – but you’re also angry that they are not here.”
“…And that they didn’t tell you that they were struggling,” adds Caroline.
“They act all happy and fine. It’s quite unusual,” says Ada.
“It doesn’t make sense, does it?” offers Caroline. It is just a glimpse into the impossible conversations, the heartbreak and tears this family has endured.
Photographs of Steve with his children tell of a loving husband and father, hugging his children close, taking pride in his girls and valuing his precious time with them.
Evie tries to explain her own feelings on this, “Rather than someone being taken away from you – that person’s chosen to take themselves away from you.”
“They don’t want to be with you,” says Ada.
Evie picks up: “There’s sadness that they must have been struggling – but you made that decision. You must have thought whatever you had going on, was a bigger deal than me needing a father in my life, and that’s been a big thing for me.”
But Caroline has a consoling thought – a moment she says that changed everything. “It wasn’t that long ago maybe last year I was asked a question that completely knocked me off my feet – and took away most of my anger. I was asked by somebody – ‘What do you think Steve would say if he could come back and speak to you, right now.'”
“And my response to that, knowing what an amazing person he was, is that he would say ‘sorry’ and he didn’t want to cause us any pain. And in that moment imagining him saying ‘sorry’ – took away all my anger.”
Then she adds, “The problem is that replaces the anger with sadness.”
Image: Evie hates when other pupils joke about suicide
There is a deep chasm in the room. They will never know why. There are no answers. No clues and no way to change that. The profound complexity of emotions is something anyone would struggle with, yet both children Evie have found ways of coping.
“You have the first couple of years of feeling – ‘this is going to be my life now this is how I’m going to feel…’ says Evie. Her emotions break through, she pauses to compose herself then determinedly finishes her point. “…and I think being able to move past that and understand that you are not defined by that loss – and you are more than the person who took themselves away from you – and you are stronger.”
The next day as the assembly loomed Evie emitted quiet confidence. Mum Caroline came to watch and said she felt protective but at the same time “unbelievably proud”.
Image: Evie gives her presentation at assembly
What then happened was an extraordinary 20 minutes. Around 80 children watched the presentation, which included a thought-provoking animated film that Evie helped to create. She told the room how she lost her father to suicide in 2018 when she was nine years old and warned, “When you hear someone joking about something that has completely turned your world around it can be so hurtful.”
She also had sage advice on where teenagers can get help themselves, listing school provision and organisations outside of school such as Childline and the Samaritans.
Research recently published by the Mental Health Foundation found a third of young people accessed self-harm content online and the theme this year’s Mental Health Awareness week was community. Evie’s presentation couldn’t have been more appropriate.
She told her peers: “Unfortunately, in my experience the people who don’t talk about it, the people who keep their emotions down and don’t want to speak about those feelings are the people who we lose thorough suicide.”
Image: Headmaster of Brighton Hill Community School, Chris Edwards
Caroline was right to be proud and so too was headmaster of Brighton Hill Community School, Chris Edwards. He said afterwards: “I bang on about this quite a lot – the younger generation – and the press that they get does not match the depiction that I see day in day out.
“They are phenomenal – and the assembly we’ve seen today which Evie ran was one of the most impressive things I’ve seen in my career. Not just because she was able to tackle a subject that’s very difficult to her, but to do it to her peers is doubly difficult. And I was also proud of the way the children responded.”
It is rare this subject is talked about, and it must be done sensitively. Evie gave a masterclass in how to do it.
Anyone feeling emotionally distressed or suicidal can call Samaritans for help on 116 123 or email jo@samaritans.org in the UK. In the US, call the Samaritans branch in your area or 1 (800) 273-TALK.
The British seaside town of Bournemouth has a complex relationship with migration. It needs migrants to work in the tourist industry, which is vital for the economy.
Some residents say it’s always been a multicultural place, but others question if too many people coming here undermines the cultural identity of the town.
On Bournemouth seafront, we find that immigration is something that some white British people want to talk about – but not openly, and not on camera.
One woman, who knows the town well, said: “Bournemouth has changed because of the migration of people who have come here. The whole atmosphere of the place has changed.
Image: One woman, who would only speak anonymously, said the ‘atmosphere of the town has changed’
“It’s strange to hear foreign languages spoken so frequently in our country. To not understand anything that’s being said around you is disconcerting,” she added.
I asked her if it made her uncomfortable, and if so, why? Is it the scale of migration which is bothering her?
“Visually, that seems to be the case,” she says. “We see what we see. I don’t see many white British people.”
I’m trying to get to the heart of what’s troubling her.
“It’s hard to define. I remember how it was. I remember the community. I’m worrying that our society as Brits is being undermined by the people who are coming in,” she says.
For decades, Britain has wrestled with the thorny issue of migration – who should be allowed into the country and from where.
The change in the demographic of the town is clear. Between the 2011 and 2021 censuses, the non-British-born population in Bournemouth’s local authority went up by 47%, and UK net migration has continued to rise significantly since then.
Image: Bournemouth is a popular tourist destination
Image: The town attracts tourists because of its long sandy beach
Post-Brexit changes
Nine years ago – just before Brexit – we visited Bournemouth’s Cumberland Hotel. Back then, the staff were mostly EU citizens – many from Eastern Europe.
Returning to the hotel, we speak to the manager, Sean Nell.
He said: “A lot of our workforce were EU nationals and after Brexit, a lot of them left – they found other work other than hospitality.
“A lot of our workforce we’re seeing now that we can recruit from is probably South Asia.”
Image: Sean Nell, hotel manager in Bournemouth
One of the staff is barman Shardul Tomas, who came to the UK from India in 2022 on a student visa. Whilst studying for his master’s degree, he began working at the hotel.
“It’s good to come here and experience new culture and do what we wish to do in our fields….after Brexit, the Europeans were less, so we were able to get good jobs,” he said.
Image: Shardul Tomas moved to the UK three years ago
‘We are replaced’
Nine years ago, Margaret Kubik was the assistant restaurant manager at the Cumberland.
We tracked her down and discovered she’s now working as a self-employed driving instructor.
She said: “When we met nine years ago, we as the Polish people were very much accused of taking the jobs from English people. Now we are replaced by the South Asian people.”
Image: Margaret Kubik came to the UK in 2004 from Poland she now works as a driving instructor
‘It’s not England any more’
For some Bournemouth residents, hotels housing asylum seekers have almost become the focal point for wider concerns about migration – as is happening in other towns across the UK.
Visiting a protest outside an asylum hotel, we found people are less camera shy than the woman on the seafront – seemingly more comfortable talking about migration among a crowd of like-minded people.
Image: The Britannia Hotel in Bournemouth is one site which has housed asylum seekers
In reference to asylum seekers, one protester, shaking her head, told us: “We don’t know who these people are. Who are they? It makes you feel like it’s not England any more.”
For a couple of hours, two angry groups face off over their differing views on immigration. But not everyone shares concerns about the impact of migration on the town.
Kevin Maidment was born in Bournemouth. I asked if he feels the fabric of the town has changed.
Image: Kevin Maidment
Protesters ‘need somebody to hate’
He said: “No, because it’s always been a place where foreign language students visit.
“I think this lot down the road, they need somebody to hate… now it’s refugees, 10 years ago it was the Poles and the Eastern Europeans,” he said.
Watching the two groups with opposing views trying to drown each other out is a man called Colin. He lives in a flat between two asylum hotels, a few minutes walk apart.
Image: Colin lives in a flat between two asylum hotels
“Personally, the immigrants aren’t a problem on the street or anything like that at all,” Colin says, referring to those seeking asylum.
“But people are fed up with the cost. The cost is a big problem because it’s so high.”
But with more councils vowing to launch legal challenges over the government’s use of asylum hotels, the immigration protest movement shows no sign of fizzling out.
Two Labour-run councils have said they are considering taking legal action to stop the use of hotels to house migrants in their areas after Epping council won a temporary injunction on Tuesday.
The leaders of Wirral and Tamworth councils both say they are considering their legal options in the wake of the Epping case, citing similar concerns about the impact of the hotels on their local communities.
Epping Forest District Council won an interim High Court injunction to stop migrants from being accommodated at The Bell Hotel, after arguing its owners did not have planning permission to use it to house migrants.
In a statement, Paula Basnett, the Labour leader of Wirral council, said: “Like many other local authorities, we have concerns about the Home Office’s practice of placing asylum seekers in hotels without consultation or regard to local planning requirements.
“We are actively considering all options available to us to ensure that any use of hotels or other premises in Wirral is lawful and does not ride roughshod over planning regulations or the wishes of our communities.
Image: Police officers ahead of a demonstration outside The Bell Hotel. Pic: PA
“Wirral has always been proud of its record in supporting families and those fleeing conflict, but it is unacceptable for the government to impose unsuitable, short-term arrangements that disrupt communities and bypass local decision-making.
“If necessary, we will not hesitate to challenge such decisions in order to protect both residents and those seeking refuge.”
Carol Dean, the Labour leader of Tamworth Borough Council, said she understands the “strong feelings” of residents about the use of a local hotel to house asylum seekers, and that the council is “listening to their concerns and taking them seriously”.
She pointed out that under the national Labour government, the use of hotels has halved from 402 to 210, with the aim of stopping the use of any hotels by the end of this parliament.
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Migrant hotels a ‘failure of policy’
But she continued: “Following the temporary High Court injunction granted to Epping Forest District Council, we are closely monitoring developments and reviewing our legal position in light of this significant ruling.”
Cllr Dean added that they had previously explored their legal options to challenge the use of the hotel but decided against them, as temporary injunctions were not being upheld.
However, the Epping ruling “represents a potentially important legal precedent”, which is why they are “carefully assessing” its significance for Tamworth.
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Minister ‘gets asylum frustration’
“We fully recognise the UK government has a statutory duty to accommodate people seeking asylum. However, we have consistently maintained that the prolonged use of hotel accommodation may not represent the best approach – either for our local community or for the asylum seekers themselves,” she said.
“We will continue to work constructively with government departments and all relevant agencies while making sure the voice of our community is heard at the highest levels of government.”
Last night, Conservative-run Broxbourne Council also announced it was exploring its legal options, and the Reform UK leader of Kent County said she was writing to fellow leaders in Kent to explore whether they could potentially take legal action as well.
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Asylum hotels: ‘People have had enough’
Use of Epping hotel ‘sidestepped public scrutiny’
The prime minister and the home secretary are under huge pressure to clear the asylum backlog and stop using hotels across the country to house those waiting for their applications to be processed.
Protests have sprung up at migrant hotels across the country. But The Bell Hotel in Epping became a focal point in recent weeks after an asylum seeker housed there was charged with sexually assaulting a 14-year-old girl.
Epping Forest District Council sought an interim High Court injunction to stop migrants from being accommodated at the hotel, owned by Somani Hotels Limited, on the basis that using it for that purpose contravened local planning regulations.
Image: The Bell Hotel in Epping. Pic: PA
The interim injunction demanded that the hotel be cleared of its occupants within 14 days, but in his ruling on Tuesday, Mr Justice Eyre granted the temporary block, while extending the time limit by which it must stop housing asylum seekers to 12 September.
Somani Hotels said it intended to appeal the decision, its barrister, Piers Riley-Smith, arguing it would set a precedent that could affect “the wider strategy” of housing asylum seekers in hotels.
A government attempt to delay the application was rejected by the High Court judge earlier on Tuesday, Home Office barristers arguing the case had a “substantial impact” on the Home Secretary, Yvette Cooper, in performing her legal duties to asylum seekers.
But Mr Justice Eyre dismissed the Home Office’s bid, stating that the department’s involvement was “not necessary”.
The judge said the hotel’s owners “sidestepped the public scrutiny and explanation which would otherwise have taken place if an application for planning permission or for a certificate of lawful use had been made”.
He added: “It was also deliberately taking the chance that its understanding of the legal position was incorrect. This is a factor of particular weight in the circumstances of this case.”
Reacting to Tuesday’s judgment, border security minister Dame Angela Eagle said the government will “continue working with local authorities and communities to address legitimate concerns”.
She added: “Our work continues to close all asylum hotels by the end of this parliament.”
A row has broken out between the Tories and Reform about previous comments on migrant hotels, so who said what and when?
At the centre of the argument is an interview Robert Jenrick did with Sky News back in November 2022, one week after he was appointed immigration minister in Rishi Sunak’s government.
His appearance came amid a crisis at an asylum seeker processing centre in Kent, which had become severely overcrowded – with migrants sleeping on the floor and families being housed in marquees.
The home secretary at the time, Suella Braverman, had also been accused of allowing the situation to develop by failing to procure sufficient alternative accommodation – such as hotels – for migrants to be taken to.
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Full clip: Jenrick on hotels in 2022
Asked about this by Sky News in 2022, Robert Jenrick said: “More hotels have been coming online almost every month throughout the whole of this year.
“So, Suella Braverman and her predecessor, Priti Patel, were procuring more hotels. What I have done in my short tenure is ramp that up and procure even more because November, historically, has been one of the highest months of the year for migrants illegally crossing the Channel.”
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Council wins asylum hotel case
Fast-forward almost three years, and this clip has been seized on by Reform UK as evidence that Mr Jenrick “boasted” about how many migrant hotels he had opened.
That’s a potentially damaging accusation, given the now shadow justice secretary recently joined protests outside a migrant hotel in Essex.
Mr Jenrick responded by accusing Reform of posting a “selectively clipped” video that didn’t include the context about the Kent processing centre.
To an extent, he has a point.
Image: Nigel Farage’s party has posted clips of Mr Jenrick speaking from 2022
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At the time, the government was fighting accusations that they were risking an expensive court action from migrants claiming they were being detained unlawfully.
The minister’s response was to point out that they were sourcing alternative options to make sure this didn’t happen and to prevent order breaking down in Kent.
Mr Jenrick has also pointed to other comments he made at the time saying, “it is essential we exit the hotels altogether” and describing the expensive hotel bill as “disgraceful”.
But that’s not to say Robert Jenrick hasn’t undergone quite a pronounced shift in both language and substance when it comes to migration.
Image: Mr Jenrick has accused Zia Yusuf of “pushing false and petty crap”
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For instance, in the same Sky News interview in 2022, he said: “I would never demonise people coming to this country in pursuit of a better life. And I understand and appreciate our obligation to refugees.”
At the time, this wasn’t a surprising view from a minister commonly considered to be in the centre of the Tory party.
But Mr Jenrick’s time as immigration minister saw him move further to the right.
As he has since said himself: “I could see the breakdown of the British state was doing immense damage. It angered me, and it motivated me to do absolutely everything to fix the problem.”
The following months saw Mr Jenrick significantly harden his position, to the point that he resigned over the government’s approach.
But the bigger contradiction Reform is trying to get at by picking this fight is around the Tory record.
It is a fact that the use of hotels to house asylum seekers peaked at just over 55,000 while the Conservatives were in power.
Similarly, it’s a fact that legal migration reached record levels on the Tories watch.
Mr Jenrick can fairly claim that – in the final year of his front-bench career – he did go further than most to try to change this.
But he can’t change the data from the time.
Reform knows that – just as it also knows the Tory record on migration is one of the big pull factors bringing their voters over to them.