Behind James Vickery’s left ear is a tiny tattoo, barely noticeable until he turns to point it out.
The inking is of a mute icon, a small speaker with a cross next to it, as you would see on a computer or a phone when switching the volume off; a simple image that neatly symbolises the 27-year-old’s story.
In and out of hospital with ear infections as a child, he was eventually, at the age of eight, diagnosed with a growth of abnormal skin cells called a cholesteatoma. While the tumour wasn’t cancerous his case was severe, doctors said, and it was growing towards his brain; his parents were told that without treatment to remove his eardrum he might only have two months to live.
Image: Vickery has just released his debut album, Songs That Made Me Feel. Pic: Tom Ewbank
Surgery went well, but inevitably left Vickery completely deaf in that ear. Unable to distinguish the volume and pitch of his voice, he struggled with his speech and a vocal coach was brought in to help. It was through these sessions he found his voice; not just in conversation, but the distinctive, soulful singing voice that has now seen him hailed as a new face of UK R’n’B.
“[My parents] took me to a vocal coach and they wanted me to learn how to basically speak again,” he tells Sky News. “A good way is actually by singing because it engages your diaphragm. So we did that and my singing teacher was like, ‘you can sing, you can actually sing well’. I’d always loved singing but because of the trauma of the operation I could never do it.
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“I spoke so softly. I’m still quite softly spoken…” He pauses and grins. “Actually, no, I’m a bit gobby now, but I was quite softly spoken when I was a child. I was really unconfident because no one could ever hear me speak and so credit to my vocal coach, she really taught me how to not only speak louder, but become a bigger person, you know, really fill the room with your voice. That’s something I try and have now in my songs. All the singers I looked up to as a kid had big voices because I always wished I had one.”
Vickery’s coach was a trained opera singer so, perhaps unusually, that’s where he started. “As, like, an 11-year-old boy living in south London, that kind of wasn’t for me,” he laughs. He met brothers Howard and Guy Lawrence, better known as electronic duo Disclosure, while he was in college and began writing songs with them, before moving into R’n’B, which felt like the right fit.
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Upbeat and constantly smiling, there’s a sense of positivity and happiness that exudes from Vickery that even the often soulless Zoom can’t dampen. It’s hard not to smile back in his company. Going through such a traumatic experience at an early age has “100%, for sure” made him the person and the artist he is now, he says.
“I would have died,” he says, matter-of-factly. “It’s lucky they found it [when they did].” He goes on to explain the surgery. “I haven’t even got an ear drum in this ear, like, it’s just a black crater inside the left-hand side,” he says, swirling his hand around the area. “But that’s why I’ve got the tattoo, because I was like, not ashamed of it, but I don’t like people treating me different, I don’t like it to become this sob story. But at the end of the day, the older I get the more I think, you would not be the man you are today and it’s shaped me so much as a singer and a writer as well.”
The fact Vickery is “able to be a singer with one less ear than everyone else”, as he puts it, “is quite a mad thing”. And so the symbol has become a staple of all the artwork for his music. “I really try and own it, you know.”
Influenced by everyone from his mum’s favourites of soul, Motown, disco and R’n’B – artists such as Luther Vandross, Boyz II Men and Babyface – to his dad’s preferred rock and blues – Eric Clapton, The Doors, The Who, Jimi Hendrix – and his own love of attempting the Mariah Carey high notes, Vickery found his sound.
Image: Vickery has been hailed as a new face of UK R’n’B. Pic: Harry McCulloch
In 2018, he performed his song Until Morning for the COLORS music platform, which has now amassed more than 25 million views. In 2018 he signed a record deals with TH3RD BRAIN, followed by a publishing deal with Jay-Z’s Roc Nation in 2019.
His debut album, Songs That Made Me Feel, aims to do just that. “The way that people consume music is so passive now,” he says. “It’s so easily accessible but I think not enough people just sit down and let the music take over. That’s really what I tried to do… I just want to make a body of work that’s going to outlive me. I think I’ve done that.”
The record is “the journey of the last two years, for me”, he says. “I wanted to call it Songs That Made Me Feel is because I feel like, as a man growing up, men are taught not to show emotion, I think. You’re taught ‘man up’.” Men don’t talk about their feelings enough, he says. “I managed to be able to do that through song, luckily.”
Save You, the closing track on the album, might sound like a love song but is actually about a friend who died. “I left it quite open because I want people to interpret it in the way that they feel, I love doing that with songs. But the song is about a friend who died when I was younger and it was the first time I had someone that wasn’t like a family member die, who was close to me.”
Vickery has also written about struggling during the pandemic. Somewhere Out There was created during the first lockdown, when he was “living alone and really lonely… I was single and hoping that someone out there was feeling the same”. You Comfort Me was born from the “dark time” of the winter lockdown, when “I was just craving something to make me happy”.
Of all the industries that have been hit by the pandemic, he believes the live entertainment business is among the worst affected. Vickery is not “completely fresh” to making music but is in that “awkward” spot where he’s “by no means up there”, he says, gesturing above his head. He moves his hand down. “I’m hovering here somewhere.”
Which means it’s not been easy. “The way that the music industry runs now is that [live shows] are kind of the main source of income, no one makes that much money from streaming songs; unless you’re streaming hundreds of millions, then you’re going to make good money, but other than that, no. Thank God I signed a record deal the year before because otherwise I would have been really struggling.”
Fortunately, the deal was in place and the album is out now. Vickery says he hopes he adds another voice to highlight the UK’s new resurging R’n’B scene, which he feels is overlooked.
“The thing is the UK RnB scene is so, so good,” he says. “But God forbid you can ever turn on a radio and find an R’n’B song on in the daytime, you know. I feel like that’s going to change, though. There’s plenty of people like Jorja Smith and Mahalia who are really, really flying the flag for UK R’n’B, and I think that’s going to change hopefully in the future.”
With Vickery too, that change is surely closer. That tattoo behind his ear is just a small reminder of how much he can achieve.
Owen Cooper, the star of TV drama Adolescence, has made history becoming the youngest to win an outstanding supporting actor Emmy.
Cooper, who is 15, played Jamie Miller in the highly-acclaimed Netflix series set in Liverpool.
Adolescence, which dominated Netflix’s most-watched list earlier this year, centres on the story of a 13-year-old boy arrested for the murder of a classmate.
It won a total of four Emmys.
Cooper was just 14 at the time of filming Adolescence and had never acted before.
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In his acceptance speech he said he was “nothing three years ago.”
“It’s just so surreal. Honestly, when I started these drama classes a couple years back, I didn’t expect to be even in the United States, never mind here.
“So I think tonight proves that if you listen and you focus and you step out your comfort zone, you can achieve anything in life.”
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The four-part mini-series provoked a strong response from viewers and prompted a conversation in the UK – and worldwide – around misogyny and online safety, with co-creator Jack Thorne joining Prime Minister Keir Starmer for a discussion on the matter at the end of March.
It was also widely praised for its filming techniques, with each episode captured in one continuous take.
Gyllenhaal’s gift
Cooper’s co-star Erin Doherty (who played Jamie’s therapist) won best supporting actress in a limited series, director Philip Barantini took home the Emmy for outstanding directing for a limited or anthology series or movie, while writers Jack Thorne and Stephen Graham won for outstanding writing in the same category.
Before the awards ceremony, Cooper, from Warrington, had been surprised by his acting hero Jake Gyllenhaal, who walked in unannounced during an interview he was giving to press.
The pair hugged, and Gyllenhaal gave Cooper a small gift – a “lucky duck”.
“I made this movie [Brokeback Mountain], and I got nominated for an Academy Award, and a friend of mine sent me this before. Something just like this,” he said.
“It’s just a ‘Lucky Duck’ to keep in your pocket. To give you a little bit of luck.”
Putting it kindly, sports stars aren’t always known for their sparkling personalities.
It was Ricky’s lack of interest in the trappings of fame which accompanied his epic run of victories that made him all the more cool.
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He was the working-class hero who seemed unstoppable. It was a story that everyone wanted to follow.
Image: Ricky Hatton smiles during a news conference in 2006. Pic: Reuters
Celebrities wanted to be seen alongside him. Piggy-backing off his popularity the likes of Brad Pitt, Angelina Jolie, Denzel Washington and David Beckham were all pictured ringside at one time or another, drawn to his fan-friendly style and impressive winning streak.
At the same time as the Gallagher brothers were flying the flag for music from Manchester, Hatton was doing the same for boxing.
During his 2008 fight against Paulie Malignaggi, he had Liam and Noel escort him to the ring.
In an interview he said he thought all three of them might be killed when Liam held up Hatton’s IBO belt inches from Malignaggi’s face and with a swagger said ‘what do you think about that you d*** head?’.
Stories like that are why his appeal extended beyond sport. He was an ordinary bloke who’d done extraordinary things. He never lost sight of who he was and fans loved him for it.
Image: Ricky Hatton is joined by Liam and Noel Gallagher after his 2008 fight against Paulie Malignaggi. Pic: Reuters
Ever found yourself religiously following the lives of people you’ve never met on social media?
Be it your favourite artist, influencer – or someone you met once at a party – those of us “chronically online” are likely familiar with that strange phenomenon of feeling like you know someone – without actually knowing them at all.
That funny feeling is what psychologists call a parasocial relationship: a one-sided attachment or bond with someone despite a lack of reciprocity.
The term was first used by academics in 1956 with the advent of television, which facilitated the “illusion of face-to-face relationships” with “performers” on our screens.
Today, it’s increasingly associated with influencers and podcasters, given the amount – and often intimate nature – of what they put online.
“Unrequited relationships are nothing new,” Dr Veronica Lamarche, a social personality psychologist at the University of Essex, says. “Throughout history there are lots of examples of people forming one-sided connections.
“It’s a case of all your connection with that person coming solely through what you’re presented with through those channels – be it your favourite TV show or a social media profile.”
A 2024 study co-authored by Dr Lamarche revealed that while people found their emotional needs were still best met by friends and family, parasocial relationships with YouTubers were valued more than relationships with “real” acquaintances or colleagues.
“Parasocial relationships are available whenever we need them,” Dr Lamarche adds.
“In the middle of the night, if you’re feeling a bit sad, you can turn to your favourite content creator and get that feeling of solace – whereas it might be inappropriate to wake up your best friend to call them for a chat. There aren’t those same boundaries.”
Four influencers share their experiences of parasocial relationships
One follower ‘turned up at my house’
Charlie Pauly, 34, is a travel blogger and content creator who knows those blurred boundaries all too well.
He and his then partner started documenting their round-the-world trip in 2017 and unwittingly became “the UK’s biggest Instagram travel couple”.
But when the couple separated in 2022, not only did he have to navigate a break-up but his followers’ reactions – and many had been invested in their “couple goals” persona for years.
Image: Travel blogger Charlie Pauly in New York. Pic: Charlie Pauly/Instagram
“The thing with social media is people love depth. They really want to get to know you – and people really believe that they know you,” he tells Sky News.
“I got lots of lovely messages of support, but it went crazy at first. I got [messages saying]: ‘I always knew she was gay’ and ‘he was definitely cheating on her’ – none of which was true.
“Even just recently a guy came up to me and kept saying ‘you were such a good couple’.
“I suppose that’s the perfect example of a parasocial relationship. I don’t know this person and yet he came and said all of this to my face. It’s just weird.”
Image: Charlie travelling with his ex-partner. Pic: Charlie Pauly
When Charlie was living on a narrowboat near his hometown of Peterborough, a follower sent a picture of himself standing beside it.
“He just turned up at the boat when we weren’t there – I had no idea,” he recalls. “He took a selfie and sent it to me on Instagram.”
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Charlie, who has now rebranded as a solo traveller, still isn’t sure whether it was meant maliciously or not, but he felt it crossed privacy and safety boundaries.
“He said he ‘just wanted to say hi’, but I got quite defensive about it. I told him: ‘I don’t know where your head’s at, but that’s not cool. Don’t ever turn up at my house again’.”
‘I hadn’t realised my follower had died’
Lifestyle content creator Kristabel Plummer says she has felt the effects of the parasocial relationship in reverse – when she found out one of her most loyal followers had died.
The 37-year-old from London has been making a living from her social media channels for the past 12 years, with around 80,000 followers on Instagram and “lives” on TikTok roughly three times a week.
Image: Lifestyle influencer Kristabel Plummer, from London. Pic: Kristabel Plummer/Instagram
Earlier this year, she realised she hadn’t heard from a follower she’d had on-off conversations with for years.
The follower, an aspiring influencer herself, would diligently follow tips and hacks Kristabel posted, and Kristabel had followed her back roughly two years ago.
“She was in South Africa and I’m not sure what the influencer scene is like there, but she wasn’t able to do it as a job – like me. So she would always remember very specific things I’d written and put them into practice,” she says.
She recalls: “She crossed my mind one day, so I checked her profile – only to find someone had posted about her passing away.”
Although she didn’t find out until eight months later, and she still doesn’t know how she died, Kristabel was brought to tears.
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“It’s such a strange sort of relationship. If someone stops messaging you, you have no way of knowing what’s happened to them – so it was very upsetting to find out that way,” she adds.
Her experience is in line with academic research, which has shown people can still experience grief-like symptoms even if they have never met the person who has died, or if they’re not real.
Parasocial relationships ‘part of our psychological toolkit’
But there are plenty of positives to parasocial relationships. Dr Lamarche describes them as “part of our psychological toolkit for connection” when used in the right way.
Research has shown they can reduce social isolation, build confidence, and enhance our sense of identity.
Josh Fletcher, or ‘Anxiety Josh’, is a psychotherapist, author, and podcaster with around 240,000 Instagram followers and nearly two million podcast downloads.
Image: ‘Anxiety Josh’ from Manchester. Pic: Jon Shard Photography
After a breakdown in his early 20s, he was diagnosed with anxiety and OCD, and suffered from panic attacks and intrusive thoughts.
Having found the resources he’d been given of little use, he decided to create a platform to help others like him. His posts aim to show what various conditions and their symptoms look like in reality – and how people can separate themselves from how they feel in that moment.
“When you’re anxious you feel alone, you feel isolated – sometimes you don’t even have the words to describe how you’re feeling,” the 35-year-old from Manchester tells Sky News.
“I live a happy life now, but by me saying ‘I’ve been there’ gives people hope.”
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Researchers who specialise in parasocial relationships have consistently found that minority groups, particularly the LGBTQ+ community, often get the most benefits from them – especially if they lack those peers in their social circles.
“Being able to see yourself mirrored back to you is a great antidote to that loneliness and hopelessness that comes with a lot of mental health conditions,” Josh says.
He sees the benefits of his followers’ parasocial relationships with him in the messages he gets, he adds.
On his podcast Disordered, his listeners share things they’ve achieved with the help of his online community, despite their mental health challenges.
And in response to his latest book, And How Does That Make You Feel: Everything You Never Wanted To Know About Therapy, he’s had “hundreds” of messages from people inspired to follow in his footsteps because he has “taught them it’s okay be a therapist – and still not have your all s*** sorted”.
Risk of social withdrawal
While parasocial connections have proven benefits, they’re not without their risks.
Following someone else’s experiences day in, day out, inevitably leads to social comparison – and can risk people developing unhealthy ideals or expectations.
And for those with low self-esteem or attachment issues, there is a risk of withdrawing from in-person relationships in favour of parasocial ones.
“The reason they can be so harmful is that one-sidedness,” Dr Lamarche says.
“While they’re useful, they can’t ever fully satiate our needs, so when things get really challenging, these people can’t tailor their behaviours to us – because they don’t know who we are.
“So if someone with low self-esteem starts putting all their eggs in their parasocial basket, that withdrawal can make them more vulnerable and actually lower their wellbeing long-term.”
So how do you strike the right balance?
Both Charlie and Kristabel admit they are “still figuring out their boundaries” when it comes to these kinds of parasocial relationships.
But as a psychotherapist, Josh says he has always been mindful that they can form and feels a responsibility to navigate them carefully.
“That over-familiarity can lead to disappointment,” he says.
“I come across as this caring, considerate person on social media, but if people reach out to me and I don’t respond, that can be perceived as a rejection.
“I have to put ‘no DM advice’ on my profile because I can’t provide individual advice – it’s unethical.”
So how do you strike the right balance – particularly when you make a living from sharing your life online?
Michelle Elman is a life coach, author, content creator, and self-styled “queen of boundaries”.
Image: Life coach Michelle Elman, from London. Pic: Michelle Elman
Just over a year ago, having kept her relationship relatively private, she revealed that she had got engaged and discovered her fiance had been cheating on her with one of her followers – all on the same day.
Now, she has returned to posting about dating, friendships, and body positivity – having initially found internet fame for sharing pictures of her surgery scars.
“I think with my style of content there’s a perception that I share everything about my life – when I actually really don’t,” she tells Sky News.
Whenever she has felt the need to demonstrate this to her followers, she asks them how many siblings she has – so they realise they don’t know the answer.
“I’m very private about the people in my life – my family, friends, the people I’m dating,” she explains.
While she may share screenshots of WhatsApp messages or conversations on dating apps, she doesn’t reveal names or anything beyond the early stages of a relationship.
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“Every so often, I might get a message asking ‘What happened to this guy?’, but I won’t answer, because the moment you start, it’s never going to be enough to meet people’s expectations.”
Asked how influencers can avoid the pitfalls of parasocial relationships, she advises them not to let followers dictate what they do and don’t talk about – and to be aware “oversharing” won’t increase their numbers.
“People can think that relatability thing, if you overshare, you’ll get a bigger following – but you have to ask yourself if that’s why you want people to follow you.
“If you look at my Instagram as a whole – it does sum up my life – but that doesn’t mean I’ve shared every thought I’ve ever had.”